What is narcissistic

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Xiaoyun: I want you to talk about narcissism. While many saw this article, but I feel, a Cloud and I am Clear, and I alone am sober drunk all the world to except their own narcissistic r, negate all the point of narcissism can be described as the best, unfortunately, he jumped into the Miluo River, was later the object is to pay homage to popular not resistant to food dumplings hh so the use of emotional language evaluation Yuan, may have his own psychological reasons. But I think that love Subject say that a person in the exist, have to express their own meaning of existence. If at this level using the need to understand the to the process: Use the and people said to be narcissistic, and without the In the whether narcissism, and their relationships and roles in the independent position. We will find out that those who act as mean that a person is narcissistic, and living habits on narcissism little to languages. So, from the psychoanalytic point of view, in the end what is narcissistic? whether psychology has a clear definition of narcissism ?
the way: There! Many people have referred to is the daffodils. become a flower, later known as the daffodils. In fact, this myth has already been clearly defined narcissism: narcissism of people is to own people as the object of love.
psychoanalysis for self- Love the classic definition, refers to a person's special is that a bet to others who narcissistic libido, it is narcissistic to experience in others, they put other people as a Lloyd's definition. Sigmund Freud to narcissists metaphor of . When we are sick, we would be extremely interested in the outside world down instead concentrate on their own, and this is narcissism. In fact, narcissistic youth and beauty of this classic definition is consistent with the myth of Narcissus.
Xiaoyun: this definition of narcissism, it seems narcissistic than the general sense, the scope smaller. in certain circumstances, it seems that each of us may be in a narcissistic state. I think, according to Freud's definition, if a person is always in narcissism, it means that he (she) does not have the ability to care for others? mean that he (she) will not be able to establish with others relationship?
the way: the narcissist always had time to concentrate on his own care, they will own as a word, on the surface, the narcissist may be very concerned about the sort of person. narcissist is similar to a baby lying in his mother's arms, he can only feel their needs and expectations are met. his Despite all the time to look toward his mother, but he does not really care about the feelings of the mother, not to ignore the mother's pain and pleasure, he was just trying to get his mother wanted. the most extreme circumstances, in the narcissist the spirit of the world, the object mm that is different from , narcissists lack the ability to love others, but this does not mean they can not build relationships with others. narcissists are able to build relationships with others. but, narcissists established relationships with others, and the usual sense of personal relationships very different.
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Xiaoyun: narcissism involves relationships since, I would like to know a person to show narcissism, are there specific conditions? in the range of relationships if there is some restrictions?
the way: ah, this is actually an important issue. narcissism is a close relationship exists in the problem. For the purposes of ordinary human relationships (for example: contacts and relations between business, professional exchanges between), since straight with no significant difference between ordinary people and their relationship most people do not lack ability to adapt. However, when these relationships become intimate relationship between people, the narcissistic personality traits will be fully shown. In other words, narcissism is a production in the intimate relationship of personality characteristics. narcissistic behavior, mainly in the love relationship, marriage, parenthood and family relations.
However, in some cases, Narcissism can also , in the mental doctors and patients, ; out of the intimate relationship, there is a narcissistic person in the end how do psychological characteristics and behavior?
to the process: In a nutshell, ; focus and rely on . For example: a mother walked into her daughter's room, opened the drawer and peep her daughter's diary; a husband likes to look at his wife's cell phone text messages or phone records, even in the presence of his wife's face to do so; an old mother (not knock on the door) straight into the bedroom son and daughter were sleeping, or concerned about the sons and the transition between the private life; a 70-year-old grandmother and 17 grandchildren together at dinner, always grandson Xiecai, directing the children to eat This eat it, and made the children have nothing hh where all these are the lack of a sense of belonging to the boundary.
If that day you find a colleague used to put the sofa in your office to use as a bed and show baby emotions, that you have her narcissistic projection.
Xiaoyun: So, if a wife suspected her husband was having an affair, her husband secretly peep chat or phone call records, this behavior is to do Narcissistic behavior you?
the way: do not! the parties whether there is you did not peep under her husband's habit of communication record, just something to do so only under the stimulation, it has nothing to do with narcissism. because you want to find out some things for the truth of this matter do not means that you do not have border consciousness. you just want to mysteriously find an evidence to make a choice about marriage, but also in the subjective knowledge that you do so is a violation of others privacy and space. precisely because you have a border consciousness, you will see a thing secretly.
contrast, among those who say she and her husband have no privacy, or claims that there is no privacy between themselves and their parents, and the so-called very transparent to each other What happens? Conversely, if I accept the narcissistic behavior of those beyond the borders, what will happen?
to the process: If you accept, she will self-righteous narcissism. As to how would you? up to you what kind of psychological roles in it! If you are his violation of emotional manipulation, by blackmailing people.
If you do, narcissists would show the baby-like helplessness, anger, hostility, and translated into further control and the struggle will be difficult to get rid of you. This is narcissist behavior characteristics of the second mm In fact, the narcissist just because they have know that in the subjective world of the narcissist does not feel that you are a separate entity, do not feel that he is an independent person, he and you are in will unconsciously you as his own mother. or two people mutually mother, are each part of each other. In the eyes of others, it seems that narcissists indulge in an elusive ideal, that is: the two one or more people into one.
to describe the relationship of ; self object infant breast-feeding. During this period, infant and mother in a symbiotic state of mind the baby's mother (image) is his mother, the mother is the first fixation) in a symbiotic state, the mother and child during the symbiotic or control, from the heart of the helpless and powerless, in essence, is the baby of the Most of the control of narcissism will choose to flee, or try to resist this control behavior. So, when we ignore and do not meet the narcissist acts beyond the control of the border, how will the narcissist choose?
the way: and they maintain a certain distance, they will prevent you from doing so stubborn, and they stop you and he used to separate the killer are two: First, and please help; the second is anger and entanglement. The former can be called , or you are a narcissist, you will be difficult to clean up this situation.
Xiaoyun: I consulted a 20-year-old boy, said he and his girlfriend love him almost a year. his girlfriend to break up with him, but he has been reluctant to let go on the grounds that he loved her.
young man said: She bought breakfast, I think I hurt her she was too tired to help her do whatever she did, she did not oppose it. I tried not to ask her a few days, but I still can not let go. Yesterday I heard she and her friends say introduce a boyfriend to help her, I asked her if she really wanted and I separated. She did not directly answer my question. I asked whether she thought how to think, she said she do not know. She said I wordy. She said she can understand and who had a wordy what life is. I really can not stand always pay no return. last night, called her to prepare things to say it, but she has things that I When she was called her back. but she has not played. do not know what she is trying to avoid or considered. talking about feelings, broke up with his girlfriend will be.
the way: Yes, ah, this guy is in with a Friends buy breakfast or do whatever things are behavior and emotions, in essence, not the end of their psychological, there is no sense of security, is to please. These acts are not love and respect for each other, but rather point to the behavior of self-satisfied narcissism. This scene is like a child and his mother relationship, typical of the narcissistic disorder.
Xiaoyun: I feel very emotional young man focused on his girlfriend, and depends on the attitude of his girlfriend, very sensitive, very painful. focus on whether The narcissist is an important personality characteristics? Moreover, many people focus on the emotional hold a positive attitude is this, and narcissism, what is different?
the way: Yes. in a loving relationship, the emotional focus is important feature of the relationship. love is Love's emotional focus, the lack of object (object) of love and compassion, but also the lack of independence of the value of the object of understanding and respect, they are only based on dependency and self-satisfaction. narcissist in an intimate relationship, only the dependent and self-satisfied, and nothing else.
further investigation narcissist He does not know loyalty, or you have a sense of responsibility, not appreciate your value, but also means you do not particularly attractive, but because you are his All his life, you are his only world. Naturally, you can count on is his only object was.
so we will draw a conclusion: a narcissistic power to others bet more people than They put other people to experience as a self object, they can not rely on their own and other external resources to build the meaning of life, and thus there will be a single object of a strong emotional dependence, and thus show to focus, that is dependent on people who are dedicated However, the object of his self only. I'm often in consultation with the interview to hear the confession: He is a nuisance, but I really can not do without him! without him, I can not live! (c)
Xiaoyun: We often see such a description, that is, extreme narcissists are often a number of self-righteous people who indulge in self-satisfaction, they seem to have a strong desire of self-expression, they Through performances, get attention from others envy; they always seem too self-evaluation, thinking talented, superior ability, and often unrealistic to exaggerate their achievements, tends to the extreme of self-focused; like to do the illusion of a brighter future, for example, imagine their own achievements, honor and enjoy the ensuing; they are often arrogant, self-important and so on. I want to make sure that these features are not we say narcissism?
to the process: self-righteous, self-centered, narcissistic, self- show off, neurotic self-expression desire, inexplicable feel good, it is indeed one of the characteristics typical of narcissists, but this is in real life, Yes (unfortunately) narcissist who can not see them.
Xiaoyun: You mentioned luck and misfortune, means what?
the way: the narcissist needs a mother, when they found a real life case is an unfortunate narcissist. In theory, a lucky narcissist, there is a exaggerated, display of self, feel good. But we should note that this self is based on the mother feel good for her approval and emotional reflection on the basis of, if not mother made her reflect, he may immediately to depression and anxiety.
Xiaoyun: can it be said, fortunately, live in the narcissistic need to praise, praise and a high degree of concern, only in this context they will feel good about themselves, otherwise it will go in the opposite?
the way: Of course! If we use ; great, will be excited to shake his body, and may be as we expect these toys Juji very fast. This is probably because of too much force head and face covered in blood and the end wall, do not believe you to try!
Fortunately, the performance of narcissists like a child who's inexplicable pride, those who claim to be simply a genius, who boast of my ability, the great , he explained, Folk Psychology Masters plausibly bit about his archaeological psychology: Fortunately, usually temporary.
Xiaoyun: It seems a bit like a manic psychosis in patients with performance. I suspect mm, whether the person's performance spirit of symptoms, delusions. Maybe we need to distinguish, exaggerated self and the arrogance of mental patients (delusions) of the difference. What do you say?
the way: the narcissist's also in clinical boundaries can be identified. Generally speaking, the generation of exaggerated sense of self is conditional, that is, the exaggerated need for the presence of the mother. Here the or admirers, it may be a stage, a podium, a large audience or the audience, a bunch of require such conditions, they do not need any object, not other people's recognition, do not object to reflect and get involved, he said to himself. ah mm, completely delusional mental patient is surreal, he would imagine as real. In addition, the narcissist's self is a transient exaggerated or real-time experience when detached from the parent (self object) and reflect the concerns, the parties did not continue in a state of exaggerated self-mm when they separated from the mother and reflect the concerns, the narcissist will often fall into helplessness, frustration, low self-esteem or fear.
Xiaoyun: ah! I see, a narcissistic person will say, I was a genius in music, As long as I want, I'm a genius (in fact, not a genius). a madman might say, I was a genius in music is already a genius, you see, I knock a song for me to create (actually just beat a jobs), which is the world's most beautiful music ah! even if no one listens to his beating, still beating, is not it.
the way: Yes, the presence of a madman, even if no one will beat bird and feel their jobs gorgeous. The narcissist is eagerly waiting time may be his two major components: when they are in the mother's concern was, surrounded by reflecting them, they feel great, perfect, self-centered. But on the other hand, he felt that my absolute ideal, perfect, super-energy. The reason I feel perfect, when I have a perfect mother. with words: mm you're the perfect parent, but I'm part of you!
small Cloud: This phenomenon seems to see in children, many children communicate with their peers, will unconsciously to their parents compared with other parents and the parents of the two little boys playing together, a boy said: immediately pick up your mouth and say: But I want to clarify that this performance of a child who is normal narcissism, does not constitute a mental disorder, because the child was originally narcissistic, this on the parents, it? to find a . For instance, a narcissistic man, age 25, he can experience a years old still have this blessing. when their child was born, the wife will be more focus on the body or the cause of the child, he would face the loss of the mother. or, when this psychological growth of women, no longer treat his son did to her husband, decided to live for yourself, when this man will be a problem.
So unfortunately, in actual practice, those on the mother's narcissistic dependence may often be invalid. the real mother (from the body object) only one, that is, the parents of his childhood, the other nothing but a temporary that the mother had. I mean, unless the mother is his biological parents, and unless he has a baby (which is obviously not), two conditions are indispensable, otherwise, narcissistic mother who dreams of finding forever will eventually burst. Therefore, in order to secure that live, grow up to be narcissists psychologically mm separation of the parent to complete to become an independent person!